My kids have a lot of self-confidence. They get that from me.
My husband has always marveled at it. I know it's not something most people say out loud, but I think I am terrific. Joel has what is probably a normal amount of self doubt, but he should know by now that I wouldn't have married him if he wasn't pretty great.
My sons are fairly confident in just about all situations, and it is not because they were the best students or the hardest workers. I have told my children since birth that they are wonderful, and evidently they believe me.
My husband teases us and calls this phenomenon "Confidence for No Apparent Reason."
You can laugh at us, but it works. Go through life thinking that everyone loves you, and see how far it gets you.
I got my self-confidence from my parents. I've written about my mother, who thinks that everyone loves her, but that is because everyone actually does love her. My mother told me the following story of her trip back to Florida after Thanksgiving:
She was in the security line at the airport, putting all her things in a bin, and a TSA agent reminded her to take off her shoes before she went through the scanner. My mother told the woman that she was old enough now to keep her shoes on, and the TSA woman was surprised and complimented my mother for looking so young. My mother asked the woman if she'd had a nice Thanksgiving, and they exchanged pleasantries.
My mother walked through the scanner, and the TSA agent held out her arms to pat my mother down. My mother saw the woman with her arms outstretched, and walked over to her with her own arms outstretched. My mother gave the woman a big hug and said "Happy Thanksgiving!"
My mother assumed that the TSA agent at O'Hare airport on Thanksgiving weekend wanted to give her a hug.
Even I am speechless.